I've been feeling rather troubled lately- at uncertain moments during the day for purposes I don't even know for sure.



In the meantime, our Korean wedding photographer has not been picking up his phone or replying our messages ever since he sent over the unedited images about a month ago. It's a horrible feeling to be left on a string and I sure hope he picks up his phone and delivers what was long overdue...
Urgh. :(

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.
I have seen something else under the sun: 
The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, 
nor does food come to the wise  
or wealth to the brilliant 
or favor to the learned; 
but time and chance happen to them all. 
-Ecclesiastes 9:10-11 (NIV)

Ever since getting an Air Fryer, John and I have been eating a lot of chicken!
Not that we don't (already) prior to Air Fryer but this foolproof machine is amazing!
I've since joined in an Air Fryer group on Facebook and have been bookmarking sites to remember the temperature used for different dishes.
The aunty inside of me is screaming out but I usually shut it up with another Air Fried Siu Yoke while reassuring my inner self that I'm a domestic goddess in the making not an aunty. *cough.

It has been 5 weeks since owning the machine and I've made bread from scratch, instant mix cake, siu yoke, char siew, muffin pancakes and lots of chicken wings!

I hope to record some of my kitchen experiments here and first off, chicken wings!
It's a basic recipe that you can add or subtract to suit your taste buds.

There were no particular subject leading up to that question when i'm not even done putting my bag away.

After a few more trips, I finally understood that hasty "how old are you?" question.
As you may or may not know, there are the formal and casual Korean speech lingo that are used conversations.
Like the Korean dramas you watch where they go, "Hey! don't you know that you are younger than me?" or "...why are you using one hand to pour the soju?!" when someone younger uses the casual speech or in action before getting an approval.
Yes, for the record I found it cute when I was stuck in my k-drama fantasy days.

I'm not trying to shine a bad light on this little thing that I have come to observed but looking from a foreigner's point of view- I do find it quite annoying at times when someone uses the age trick to gain that automatic superior treatment.

It seems as if, the higher the digits-the higher your "juniors" have to respect you.
Respect has to be earn, not counted.

There was once, when I was out for a gathering and I did not want to join in the next meetup (clearly because I didn't feel comfortable with that person) and politely decline when these words where thrown at me, "As a person older than you, you have to listen to me and come!" and it happened again, with another acquaintance blaring "you are younger than me, you have to call me Oppa". 
I don't like being imposed on calling someone "Oppa" or "Onni" when I don't feel that warm and fussy connection but I must say it really comes in handy when you suddenly forget their names.^^

Now now, I am not generalizing Koreans with this topic because I have amazing friends who doesn't care about being older and have younger friends like me nor am I saying that I don't respect people by not wanting to call them "Oppa" or "Onni" or ignoring the fact that they just wanted to know how to converse with you in the level of respect in which it should be given. I do think that it would be more genuine to kick away that question and treat people with the same level of finesse, regardless.



In short, I have experienced all to well between friends how controlling this issue can be, "i'm older than you and you have to listen to me" and have observed how off-screen-real-life is to some extend.

It is really good that people are respectful here with how they carry out a conversation after knowing your age, vice versa but you can't denied the fact that there are many out there who abuses their age power to feel secure.

With this, I hope you'll never feel odd in a situation when a person that you've just met 2 seconds ago goes...
"how old are you?" mmkay?